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Why Does My Legal Case Take So Long and Cost So Much?
A couple of 1983 graduates of U.Va.’s law school summarized the time/cost factor of litigation by quoting the famous Lexus automobile slogan “relentless pursuit of perfection.” They reflect over the years since meeting at law school orientation 27 years ago....
Litigation is an alternative to Mediation: Try Mediation First
Over 30 years ago the Virginia Supreme Court received a Report on what the future of the Virginia judicial system should look like, and what it should offer. The Report recommended that “the judicial system will…provide…dispute resolution alternatives…” Why?...
Lawyers Can Serve in One of Three Roles for Clients
Lawyers can play one of three different roles for you when you seek their advice during mediation, with increasing levels of commitment to you as a client. No Deposit; No Ongoing Relationship (Lowest Level of Commitment). You can hire them by the hour, pay...
Thoughts About Significant Others
The significance of the young child’s attachment and narcissism: Reasons for not involving significant others with your children while they are still adjusting to your marital separation and divorce generally fall into two main categories. They have primarily to do...
Preparing for Service
Listening as a way of becoming means discovering who you are (self-revelation) by hearing others. It requires losing yourself to find yourself says Jesus. One way to lose yourself is in service to others. Service above self say the Boy Scouts and Rotary. ...
How Lawyers and Mediators View Your Story*
(*Your narrative of significant events that occurred during the marriage.) Judicial decisions are limited in two significant ways: By the limits imposed by statutes and by the practical constraints on how much detail a judge is willing and required to...
The History of Family Law Software, Inc.
The two founders of Family Law Software, Inc., Daniel Caine and Wendell Smith, were also partners in the company that developed the critically-acclaimed and best-selling income tax software program "TaxCut."TaxCut was a 4-time winner of PC Magazine's Editor's Choice...
Thoughts about “Significant Others”
The significance of the young child’s attachment and narcissism: Reasons for not involving significant others with your children while they are still adjusting to your marital separation and divorce generally fall into two main categories. They have primarily to do...
If the Other Parent is Bull-Headed, Then You Must Become a Matador!
In the highly acclaimed book entitled Boundaries the authors tell us that if we, as listeners, practice “containment” the other parent will be less reactive, but they give us no practical techniques for learning how to “contain” when we’re trying to listen to an...
Retain Control Through Mediation
By choosing divorce mediation you remain in control, and you have the freedom to make your own settlement choices. With the right mediator, mediation replaces litigation as the most peaceful, effective and efficient means of ending a marriage. You can even decide when...